Having Babies in a world that HATES children

By / January 27, 2014

Yup!  I went there with my blog heading… ’cause it’s true!

I was scrolling through my facebook news feed the other day, and saw a young person announcing their thoughts on babies, with nothing edifying to say.  In fact, people often joked when I got pregnant with my 2nd son, Caleb Carter, “Oh my! Don’t you know how to prevent that already?” and “Maybe you two (my husband and I) should get a TV”.  Now its one thing to hear that kind of chiding from those who don’t know or understand the Word of God, but what about those of us who are supposed to be walking in the light?  Do we hate children like the world does?  Of course I understand that not EVERYONE who lives by world systems and standards hates children, but unfortunately the vast majority do!

You see, the prevailing culture is so opposite to God’s Word. Feminists have really done a number on shaping our minds, so much so, that sometimes it’s hard for God’s truth to penetrate and redo our thinking so to speak.  And guess what!?  ARE YOU READY FOR THIS!! (enter GASP)


He said it right here..  Psalm 127:3 “Children are a gift from the LORD; they are a reward from him.”

So if our God loves children, why is it then when we hear a couple is pregnant with their 3rd, 4th or 5th baby, we gasp, sigh, and let so much negative speech roll off of our tongues? This ought not to be so!  The news of new life on the way ought to be celebrated, and the mom to be should be encouraged.  Heavens! Its hard enough she may get a swollen nose, black neck, swollen feet and peeing when she sneezes…  Negative comments soooo not welcome!

Rachel Janokovic of Desiring God Ministries.org wrote this about Motherhood:
“Motherhood is not a hobby, it is a calling. You do not collect children because you find them cuter than stamps. It is not something to do if you can squeeze the time in. It is what God gave you time for.
Christian mothers carry their children in hostile territory. When you are in public with them, you are standing with, and defending, the objects of cultural dislike. You are publicly testifying that you value what God values, and that you refuse to value what the world values. You stand with the defenseless and in front of the needy. You represent everything that our culture hates, because you represent laying down your life for another—and laying down your life for another represents the gospel.”

I had my 1st child when I was 27.  In fact, he was a honeymoon baby.  A week before my wedding, I began taking oral contraceptives. One morning, I heard the Holy Spirit ask me gently to not take those and allow Him to plan my family size for His glory and His purpose. My son was conceived immediately after this decision. My 2nd son came a year and 11 months after. By God’s grace, He is in charge of our family planning, not some pill from the pharmacy, even if that means 20 of those little munchkins!  Hey!  That’s just my personal conviction.  Every woman may not be called to pop out 20 munchkins. Lol!

So my ladies, desire ALL the blessings God has for you.  From a BMW to a baby.  Its amazing how when we see a couple get a new job, a doctorate or a new car,  we praise them, but God help them if they are pregnant with their 10th child. We don’t view that as “good a blessing ” as a new Toyota.  Lies the culture has sold us I guess..  Well, let’s replace those lies with these truths shall we:

  • ~He said be fruitful and multiply
  • ~He says children are a blessing
  • ~He desires that we love children and babies, and welcome them on HIS timing, not ours

Final thought:
~ If you are preggers, or recently had a baby, CONGRATS! Feel as blessed as the man with the new shiny car! You have A LOT of joy ahead of you.

Defy the culture! Live to please the One who holds you in the palm of His hands!

  1. Niki
    April 3, 2014 / 1:15 PM

    My My My are we on the same page regarding children. It is not popular and often times scoffed at to have multiple children these days, trust me I know. We have been blessed with five in a world that basically says, “one for me, one for you thank God we’re through”. But let God be true and every man a liar. If His word says that they are a blessing and that the fruit of the womb is His reward then I receive every single one of my babies as such. As christians we often don’t realise how much of the world’s standards we have subscribed to. We dress, act and talk just like them. But I can testify to the fact that I have never been forsaken by my God and my seed has never been begging for bread. Our family though large has been sustained and awesomely provided for by our Lord and we are content in Him.
    Blessings to you and your family!

  2. Collin Bompart
    April 8, 2014 / 11:17 AM

    Thank you for sharing. My wife and I have five children. In spite of the snide remarks and the stares of disapproval from those who should know better, God has remained faithful to his word. He is Jehovah-Jireh, I look to him for everything. My children are learning that God is their source and it is He that supplies. The “just shall live by faith”.

  3. Tricia Dyer
    April 15, 2014 / 9:38 PM

    I love this Antenille! Such a fresh perspective on a topic that isn’t explored enough! As a professional I understand fully the pressure that society places on a person in general where the acquisition of a promotion, assets, prestige and status are deemed ‘success’ and worst yet for the woman who, along this road of ‘success’ forgets that God made her first and foremost a woman (womban). I see many women forsake their child-bearing and child-rearing abilities for the sake of ‘success’. Not saying that every woman must be a mother but we must be open enough to accept that children are a blessing from God and not a curse and if God wills it for our lives then we must not trivialize or ignore it.

  4. Jessica Moore Marshall
    May 17, 2015 / 11:11 AM

    I recently had a baby at 46, I was told many negative things regarding my pregnancy. Admittedly I panicked at first but the support of a very dear friend settled me, I choose to trust God as I believed he is the one who blessed me with my baby and shut my ear and heart to the negative comments that came from some friends and professionals and God has been faithful!!! I had a bouncing baby boy packed with lots of sweetness such a blessing!! At a time in my life when there was a lot of uncertainty God provided all that I needed. The bible says children are a”blessing and a reward” at whatever time in your life they arrive. So in the mornings I ask him how is mama blessing how is mama reward? and he smiles and i smile too.

  5. Gen
    November 15, 2015 / 9:52 AM

    I was one of those who never saw myself as a mother. I was the 2nd to last in a family of 5 and had no clue about babies nor did I like children much. I thought of them as a burden, an extra expense I didn’t want. I had my 1st child 10 years after marriage (I got married at 20) and it wasn’t planned or wanted and let’s just say that I thought I knew what love was until I had her. I never understood our heavenly Father’s unconditional love for us like I do today. And that’s just one lesson God taught me. The list goes on. I am so blessed to have my 2 and I give you parents big props who have more. I truly admire your love and trust in God.